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Change Step 4

Are you ready?

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The team at PeaceBuilders believes you're ready to change your behavior when you really want to grow and see how it affects your relationship.

When you're open to hearing feedback, set achievable goals, and know you need to improve, that’s a good sign.

Being emotionally ready, asking for help, and caring about your own well-being and your partner's shows you're ready for change.

Readiness = Importance x Confidence

This means when you really care about making things better and believe you can do it, you’re ready to start making positive changes in your relationship.

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Being ready means you’re open to the idea that you might need to change some of your behaviors.

Telling you to change what you do doesn’t always work—trust me, it didn’t work for me or even for my kids! We usually just find reasons not to change.

Instead, it’s better to understand if you’re truly ready to make a change, then get the support and tools you need to succeed.

Research shows that two things help you change:

How important the change is to you?

How confident you are that you can make the change?

Readiness = Importance x Confidence

**So, are you ready to make a change, or is the pain of changing not big enough to motivate you yet? **

Think about it! What if things get worse?

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Author's Opinion

Extract from: Owning our Struggles by Minaa B. 2023

Ready for change?

Radical acceptance means learning to observe life through a solution-focused lens by identifying the problem, observing the significance of the problem and impact on your life, and then to move forward without treating the problem as your identity. Instead , you see the problem as an experience and one that you can play a role in changing.

We can get stuck in victim mode by assuming our healing is dependent on other people making choices that serve us, instead of us making choices to better serve ourselves.

It’s you who will face the consequences of your choices, whether they are good or bad.

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Updated: November 2023